1.
Show us why sex before marriage and teen pregnancy are such bad ideas. For instance, let us hear directly from teen mothers and fathers about how hard it has been for them. Even though most of us don't want to get pregnant, sometimes we need real-life examples to help motivate us.

2.
Talk to us honestly about love, sex, and relationships. Just because we're young doesn't mean that we can't fall in love or be deeply interested in sex. These feelings are very real and powerful to us. Help us to handle the feelings in a safe way ­ without getting hurt or hurting others.

3.
Telling us not to have sex is not enough. Explain why you feel that way, and ask us what we think. Tell us how you felt as a teen. Listen to us and take our opinions seriously. And no lectures, please.

4.
We need real answers on how to avoid pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. Talk to us about the importance of abstinence.

5.
If we ask you about sex, don't assume we are already having sex. We may just be curious, or we may just want to talk with someone we trust. And don't think giving us information about sex will encourage us to have sex.

6.
Reward us for making the right decisions. This will make us want to keep doing the right things.

7.
Sometimes, all it takes not to have sex is not to have the opportunity. If you can't be home with us after school, make sure we have something to do that we really like, where there are other kids and some adults who are comfortable with kids our age. Don't leave us alone so much.

8.
We really care what you think, even if we don't always act like it. When we don't end up doing exactly what you tell us to, don't think you've failed to reach us.

9.
Show us what good, responsible relationships look like. We're as influenced by what you do as by what you say. If you demonstrate sharing, communication, and responsibility in your own relationships, we will be more likely to follow your example.

10.
We hate "The Talk" as much as you do. Instead, start talking with us about sex and responsibility when we're young, and keep the conversation going as we grow older.

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